Did you join me on the 21 days without complaining adventure? Are you wondering how I am doing because I am interested in knowing how you are doing? I have made it to day 2 about 3 times. I was a few hours from day 3 when I fell back into my old habits and complained. This is way more challenging than I expected it to be. It leaves me to wonder what steps can I take to get beyond today and how to start a habit to only talk about the bright side of life.
Well, since there are 21 days to get past, let’s come up with 21 tips (or more) to help us move past the old habits of habitually complaining. (This is my fourth blog on this adventure. The links above will take you to the previous blogs). I am currently re-reading Will’s Bowen’s book to refocus my efforts. Below are several ideas to help us all move forward to success. Many of these ideas have come from Will’s book, A Complaint Free World.
- Stop making excuses for why complaining is okay or justified.
- Look for the positive in all situations.
- Embrace silence.
- Don’t give up, just change your bracelet and start again.
- Have faith – you can do this!
- Practice mindfulness.
- Pause before speaking.
- See the joy in all situations.
- Laugh as much as possible.
- Read Will Bowen’s book or read it again.
- Start the day with a positive thought to set the energy for the day.
- Remember why you started on this adventure in the first place.
- Forgive yourself if you slip and start again with new resolve.
- Think about the four gates of communication from the Sufi tradition. (Is it truthful? Is it necessary? Is now the time for it? Is it Kind?)
- Remove yourself from negative situations and people. (when possible)
- Find friends and family to support you.
- Talk about ideas and concepts instead of other people.
- Bear in mind, what you think about you bring about.
- Keep in mind, Will’s wise words; “Those who hurt are hurting.”
- Look for positive ways to connect with people.
- It is healthier to stay positive. Per Will’s book, according to doctors, 67% of illnesses are caused by our thoughts. Per Louis L. Hay; 100% are.
- Keep in mind that the things we dislike in others, are often traits we also have.
- Realize that complaining does not fix anything.
- Complaining about the past only holds you there, so talk about what you want to manifest.
- Instead of complaining say, “I am not going to move my bracelet.”
Good luck on your challenge. Please share in the comment section; how you are doing and what things you have found helpful in moving you along on your complaint free adventure.
Thank you for reading my blog today. I love you. May your thoughts and words be positive, as if by magic!
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