Tag: self talk

I Am Proud of You!

I am Proud of you! Do you hear me? Yes, I’m talking to you! I am proud of all you have accomplished. Just think where you were at a few years ago. Now look at you! Look how far you have come. It may seem like baby steps to you, but every one of those steps forward is a step in the right direction. Even f you take 2 steps forward and 1 step back, that is still one step forward. It doesn’t matter if those steps have taken place in the last week or the last 20 years. The speed of your forward progress is up to you. It is not a race to the end. 

  • Think about the things you once struggled with but now you can cope with well. I am proud of you. 
  • Think about how you have matured in your response to those you do not agree with. I am proud of you. 
  • Think about all the magic things you have manifested in your life, even if they were small. I am proud of you. 
  • Think about how you have matured in your opinions. I am proud of you. 
  • Think about the new ways you have found to take care of yourself, so that you will have the stamina to better help others. I am proud of you. 
  • Think about the ways you have stood up for the underdog. I am proud of you. 
  • Think about the ways you have brought improved order and peace into your life. I am proud of you. 
  • Think about the meditation and/or exercise practices you have started and started again and maybe will start again. I am proud of you. 
  • Think about the ways you have helped your community. I am proud of you. 
  • Think about the smiles you have shared with strangers to brighten their days. I am proud of you. 
  • Think about the ways you have shown your body, you love it, as is. I am proud of you. 
  • Think about the times you have said what you meant with love. I am proud of you. 
  • Think about the times you have excelled with determination. I am proud of you. 
  • Think about the things you have done, that you once said you would or could never do. I am proud of you. 
  • Think about the new adventures you have gone on and will go on next. I am proud of you. 
  • Think about the ways you have heard Spirit talk to you and the ways in which you have answered. I am proud of you. 
  • Think of the all the times you have pushed on, even though you have felt very stressed or overwhelmed to do so at times. I am proud of you. 
  • Think of the ways you have supported your friends and family. I am proud of you. 
  • Think about the healthy boundaries you have set, even if you have to reset them from time to time. I am proud of you. 
  • Think about how you have inspired someone else. Even if in a small way. I am proud of you. 
  • Think about the things you have learned about yourself. I am proud of you. 
  • Think of the ways you have shown, expressed, and felt gratitude. I am proud of you. 
  • Think about the ways you have given and received love. I am proud of you.

You are doing great! Yes you are. There are always ways to continue to grow and  improve yourself. Just by you are reading this, you are making forward progress. You are walking your path to being your best version of you. Look back over the decisions you have made. See how you have progressed over the years, months, weeks, days. There is progress there to celebrate. You are moving toward living the life of your dreams and I am so very proud of you. 

Thank you for reading my blog today. I wish you a lifetime of success and many things to be proud of yourself for. I love you and I am proud of you! Blessings! 

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Self Care: a series – part 3

In part 1: we talked about healthy boundaries. Part 2: encouraged you to take time for yourself. Now let’s discuss self talk. Self talk is simply the things you tell yourself. Some of the things we say to ourselves are worse than anything you would ever tell another human. Even people we really don’t like, we would seldom talk to the way we talk to ourselves, at times. We give ourselves messages about our ambitions, our intelligence, and the way we look. Why are we so hard on ourselves and how can we change it for the better?

When you look in the mirror what do you say to yourself? I know I used to look and see a fat, very plain looking woman. I would tell that woman how discussing she was. I would be angry with her for how much weight she carried and let her know I thought she was a fat pig. These are things I would have never said to another human being. Thanks to Louis L Hay and other teachers like her, I began to recognize that this was not a way to treat or talk to myself. Louis was a big advocate for “mirror work”; looking in the mirror and telling yourself. you love yourself. “I love you Stacy”. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but it is a great first step to start shifting how you talk to yourself.

The next thing you need to start doing is noticing the negative self talk. Once you began to notice how you talk to yourself, you can start to shift it from negative to positive. Notice what you say, think about it, would you ever say this to someone else? Does it pass through the four gates of communication? “Is it kind?” “Is it truthful?” “Is it non- harmful?” “Is now the right time?” I am not sure who to credit with the four gates of communication but we need to apply them to self talk, as well as talking to others. When you say something to yourself like, “you are a lazy”, think about; is it kind? Nope. Is it truthful? If you examine it you will likely find that it is not. You may be depressed, busy, choosing other things to do with your time at that moment, but not really lazy. Is this statement harm free? Can’t pass through this gate either. Negative self talk hurts our self esteem and self worth. There is a lot of harm caused by saying mean things to ourself. As for the final gate, “is it the right time?” , there is never a right time to be mean to ourselves.

As you examine the things you say to yourself, if it can’t pass through even one of these gates, it is time to send yourself a positive message.

It is time to start shifting what we say to ourselves. Start to praise yourself for the things you are doing. Start to notice things to love about yourself. Tell yourself you are proud of you for how hard you’ve worked on a project. Start to notice your attributes, you are a great artist or provide loving care for someone. Begin to tell yourself loving things about how you look. You have great legs. Your nose is really cute. People are drawn to your smile. Every time you notice yourself saying something negative to you, replace it with 2 positive messages. Make a list of all of your skills, positive attributes, and loving kindnesses you share. By making that list you will accomplish two things. Firsts you will see all of the really great things about yourself. If you get stuck, ask friends and family. They will easily and quickly share nice things about you with you. The second thing is that once you have noticed these things and written them down, they will be available for you to pull on to quickly replace the negative self talk. The list will grow and you will replace the way you talk to yourself with loving kindness.

Thank you for reading my blog today.

I wish you a life full of loving kindness, from yourself and others.

 

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