I remember when I was in college and a bunch of us were sitting around discussing what people in college discuss, totally random stuff. The question came up to name something we believe in. One of my friends answered without hesitation. “Consequences!” She said. That caused a lot of puzzled looks around the table. Now, a quarter of a century later, I totally get what she meant.
Life is full of choices. People talk about making the “right” choice, but how do we define that? Sometimes there is clearly a better choice but not always. Here is the thing, all choices have consequences. Some of the consequences may be positive and some will be negative. There is this duality in all things, like yin and yang. Let’s think about a couple of examples.
There is a project you need to get done for work or school. You plan to work on it this evening. When evening rolls around, your buddy calls and wants you to spend time doing something way more awesome than working on the project. You have a choice to make. If you work on the project the consequences may be:
- It gets done.
- You do a great job because you had uninterrupted time and could focus.
- Your buddy eventually stops calling because you are always busy.
- With the project done you have less stress, so the next time you hang out, you have way more fun.
- Your buddy totally understands and thanks you, because he gots something done on their to do list as well.
- You learn a valuable lesson.
Now let’s say you go hang out instead:
- You have fun.
- You are stressed because you know the project is still not done.
- You get less sleep in order to stay up and finish it.
- You don’t complete it on time or correctly and this gets you in “trouble”.
- Your buddy and you reach a new level of connection in your friendship.
- You learn a valuable lesson.
It is easy to see how both options have pros and cons and of course you could make other choices. Like splitting the time between the friend and the project or having the friend work with you on the project, depending on what it is.
This scenario, as with all the things that we have to make decisions on in life, has no “right” or “wrong” answer. No matter what you choose there will be consequences, both positive and negative in nature.
I encourage you to think about the possible consequences when making decisions but do not labor over them for too long. There is so much of the future that we cannot know. It is impossible to truly predict how things will turn out. Trust your gut. Rely on your intuition. If you can quiet your mind a bit, you will know which direction you are being pulled in. It will be the choice that has more peace and less stress associated with it.
Pay attention to which way your intuition is pulling you and visualize what the consequences are for those choices. This will help you to learn to trust your intuition and get better at making decisions, peacefully.
Thank you for reading my blog today! May your lifetime be filled with happy consequences and easy choices, as if by magic.
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